Dealing with Tactless People

I would just like to share what I've recently read in Mandy Kloppers' blog.

Mandy Kloppers is a psychologist, a counsellor, an author, and a life coach. I've got to visit her blog one time at counsellingandtherapy.blogspot.com and there she shared many tips and techniques to her clients to help them achieve success. 

Now, what I've find very much interesting in some of her posts is about dealing with tactless people since I've encountered a few recently. After reading that one post, I've got to filter in why some people are tactless in some ways, and I've got to have a STRONG SENSE OF SELF. As what Mandy K. said, "Head up, maintain dignity and do not let their pesky comments get to you !". Oh yeah ! and that statement gets into my nerves. Thanks Ma'am.

Let's first define what tactless is. Well, a tactless person is lacking or showing a lack of what is fitting and considerate in dealing with others. This person really have no sense of what is or is not appropriate to discuss. That is why when you've got to encounter such one, you've got to have a stong sense of self. And that's what I've recently learned from Mandy Kloppers. There are a few reasons why they are like this. Either they lack empathy and do not consider that their comments will be hurtful or their 'tact filter' is damaged in some way - perhaps due to past experiences or learned behaviour. Whatever the reason, it can be upsetting being at the receiving end of another's tactless comments. Often the person being tactless will mean no intentional harm and will have no idea of the damage they have caused. Despite the fact that what they have said will have hurt or offended you, imagine this person going through life constantly uttering verbal "faux pas'" and creating unease wherever they go - that's much more of a burden to live with. That is why it is so important to have a strong sense of self. This way, when others try to ruin your confidence or have a go at you, you can listen intently, take on board what they are saying but ultimately not let it destroy your confidence. 

"Head up, maintain dignity and do not let their pesky comments get to you !!".

That's it, if this tactless person can't even help himself in recovering from being tactless, then you as the receiving end could at least understand such trait and just be confident of who you are and what you are because there's no one who knows yourself best other than you. 

HEAD UP ! ^__^

Types of Teachers :)

I was actually thinking of what topic should I be posting until the mouse cursor brought me to a page which talks about different types of teachers. Since I've encountered already a lot of teachers from my elementary years up to now in college, I've realized that teachers were really classified according to the students individual preferences. C'mon ! Let us explore them in detail :)

tentenenentenen ! :D

Friendly Teacher
A friendly teacher, as the very term suggests, acts like a friend for his/her students. A teacher-friend, in fact, combines both the guidance of a teacher and the understanding of a friend. We all, at some point of time, aspire for an understanding teacher. Such a teacher acts like our friend, philosopher and guide.

Funny Teacher
A funny teacher is like a God-sent to the students. Such a teacher always wants to see his/her students smile ands make learning a pleasurable experience. They are not clumsy, as most people think them to be. Rather, they are witty and bring in humor in the most subtle form.

Ideal Teacher
An ideal teacher is the one we respect from our heart. He/she acts as a guide to the students, while not pushing them too much. Such a perfect motivates them and boosts their morale. He/she tries to encourage the students and refrains from criticizing them.

Lenient Teacher
A lenient teacher is easygoing and takes things as they come. He/she is not overly finicky about things, such as doing homework on time or not sitting quietly in the class, etc. Such teachers very well realize that being strict with a child can only make him/her withdrawn. However, this does not mean that one can do anything in the class of a pampering teacher.

Strict Teacher
A strict teacher is very tough on students. He/she always insists on adhering to the deadlines. Such a teacher dislikes any mistakes or carelessness on the part of the students. Students have to be extra cautious under such a teacher. He/she is like a disciplinarian, always keeping students on their toes.

-- I think you guys now already have an idea which type of teacher your instructors do belong :)

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Hallmark Cards

This particular sophisticated brand of greeting card, the Hallmark, has been my recent collections. Why ? It's because of how the messages are being expressed in their cards as well as the design. Whenever I don't know how to express what I've felt, these Hallmark greeting cards has been of great help because they have these kind of messages which have helped me express my feelings into words. Another thing that made me collect such stuffs is their designs. They were so cool to look at.Their designs fitted much to the message of the card. Take a look at some of their greeting cards here,

And here's a little background of Hallmark cards:

Hallmark Cards is a privately owned American company based in Kansas City, Missouri. Founded in 1910 by Joyce C. Hall, Hallmark is the largest manufacturer of greeting cards in the United States.In 1985, the company was awarded the National Medal of Arts.

Joyce Clyde Hall became captivated by a salesman who stopped by his family's store in 1906 in Norfolk, Nebraska. Driven by the postcard craze of 1903, Hall decided to venture from retail of various products to wholesale of postcards. He moved his business to a larger market of Kansas City. As time went on, Hall became more convinced that greeting cards would become more prominent than postcards. Greeting cards, according to J.C. Hall, represented class, promised discretion and "they were more than a form of communication—they were a social custom.”

By 1915, the company was known as Hall Brothers and sold Valentine's Day and Christmas cards. In 1917, Hall and his brother Rollie "invented" modern wrapping paper when they ran out of traditional colored tissue paper. In 1922, the company expanded throughout the country.The staff grew from 4 to 120 people, and the line increased from holiday cards to include everyday greeting cards.

In 1928, the company adopted the name "Hallmark", after the hallmark symbol used by goldsmiths in London in the 14th century, and began printing the name on the back of every card. In the same year, the company became the first in the greeting card industry to advertise their product nationally. Their first advertisement appeared in Ladies' Home Journal and was written by J.C. Hall himself.^[3] In 1931, the Canadian William E. Coutts Company, Ltd., a major card maker, became an affiliate of Hall Brothers, which was Hall Brothers' first international business venture.

In 1944, it adopted its current slogan, "When you care enough to send the very best." It was created by C. E. Goodman, a Hallmark marketing and sales executive, and written on a 3x5 card.The card is on display at the company headquarters. In 1951, Hall sponsored a television program for NBC that gave rise to the Hallmark Hall of Fame, which has won 80 Emmy Awards.^[5]Hallmark now has its own cable television channel, the Hallmark Channel which was established in 2001. For a period of about 15 years, Hallmark owned a stake in the Spanish language network Univision.

In 1954, the company name was changed from Hall Brothers to Hallmark. In 1958, William E. Coutts Company, Ltd., was acquired by Hallmark; until the 1990s, Hallmark's Canadian branch was known as "Coutts Hallmark".

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