Dealing with Tactless People

I would just like to share what I've recently read in Mandy Kloppers' blog.

Mandy Kloppers is a psychologist, a counsellor, an author, and a life coach. I've got to visit her blog one time at counsellingandtherapy.blogspot.com and there she shared many tips and techniques to her clients to help them achieve success. 

Now, what I've find very much interesting in some of her posts is about dealing with tactless people since I've encountered a few recently. After reading that one post, I've got to filter in why some people are tactless in some ways, and I've got to have a STRONG SENSE OF SELF. As what Mandy K. said, "Head up, maintain dignity and do not let their pesky comments get to you !". Oh yeah ! and that statement gets into my nerves. Thanks Ma'am.

Let's first define what tactless is. Well, a tactless person is lacking or showing a lack of what is fitting and considerate in dealing with others. This person really have no sense of what is or is not appropriate to discuss. That is why when you've got to encounter such one, you've got to have a stong sense of self. And that's what I've recently learned from Mandy Kloppers. There are a few reasons why they are like this. Either they lack empathy and do not consider that their comments will be hurtful or their 'tact filter' is damaged in some way - perhaps due to past experiences or learned behaviour. Whatever the reason, it can be upsetting being at the receiving end of another's tactless comments. Often the person being tactless will mean no intentional harm and will have no idea of the damage they have caused. Despite the fact that what they have said will have hurt or offended you, imagine this person going through life constantly uttering verbal "faux pas'" and creating unease wherever they go - that's much more of a burden to live with. That is why it is so important to have a strong sense of self. This way, when others try to ruin your confidence or have a go at you, you can listen intently, take on board what they are saying but ultimately not let it destroy your confidence. 

"Head up, maintain dignity and do not let their pesky comments get to you !!".

That's it, if this tactless person can't even help himself in recovering from being tactless, then you as the receiving end could at least understand such trait and just be confident of who you are and what you are because there's no one who knows yourself best other than you. 

HEAD UP ! ^__^